“The fathers have eaten sour grapes, and the children's teeth are set on edge” (Ezk 18:2)
The Israelites, in similitude to many in our psychology-infested day (which certainly includes “Christian” counselling), twisted, misused and abused this ancient proverb to, in other words, push blame for bad behaviour on others. The effect however doesn’t follow the cause. A parent eating sour grapes doesn’t cause a child’s teeth to be set on edge. No, they ate their own sour grapes, so
“The soul that sinneth, it shall die. The son shall not bear the iniquity of the father, neither shall the father bear the iniquity of the son:” (Ezk 18:4)
Jeremiah also corrects the blame game:
“In those days they shall say no more, The fathers have eaten a sour grape, and the children's teeth are set on edge. But every one shall die for his own iniquity: every man that eateth the sour grape, his teeth shall be set on edge.” (Jer 31:29-30)
Every single person is entirely responsible for their own deeds and attitude, irregardless of the unsound fables of counsellors scratching people where they itch (2 Tim. 4:3-4) or psychedelic drugs pumping through their veins, corrupting the conscience. You alone will be held accountable for your own sin and error. It won’t fly over with God to push the blame on someone else and neither should it be given any tolerance here on earth. Blame only empowers bad and then worse behaviour. But worse, even worse than genocidal murder on a scale of horrible, it prevents people from understanding their wicked heart and lost estate (Jer 17:9; Rom 3:10-19) and coming to conviction and reproof followed by true repentance and conversion, thus making them two-fold children of hell. That’s the end result of “Christian counselling” today including what “evangelical“ churches and para-church ministries provide (such as Heart to Heart Ministries), and yes that includes all “evangelical” Mennonite denominations such as Evangelical Bergthaler Mennonite Conference (EMBC), Evangelical Mennonite Conference (EMC), Mennonite Brethren, Mennonite Church of Canada, etc, all of which are apostate to differing degrees, the latter two being entirely reminiscent of demonic entities of the Antichrist.
“For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears; And they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables.” (2 Tim 4:3-4)
“The heart of him that hath understanding seeketh knowledge: but the mouth of fools feedeth on foolishness.” (Pr 15:14)
Modern proponents of this psychoheresy philosophy should listen to what God says about the ancient proverb:
“As I live, saith the Lord God, ye shall not have occasion any more to use this proverb in Israel” (Ezk 18:3)
The best and only true counsel is the counsel of Gods Word, not only to the Israelites, but to all the people,
“I will judge you . . . every one according to his ways, saith the Lord God. Repent, and turn yourselves from all your transgressions; so iniquity shall not be your ruin. Cast away from you all your transgressions, whereby ye have transgressed; and make you a new heart and a new spirit: for why will ye die, O house of Israel? For I have no pleasure in the death of him that dieth, saith the Lord God: wherefore turn yourselves, and live ye.” (Ezk 18:30-32)
That is the only Biblical response that God wants, not blame games.
And then you can say,
“My soul longeth, yea, even fainteth for the courts of the Lord: my heart and my flesh crieth out for the living God. . . . For a day in thy courts is better than a thousand. I had rather be a doorkeeper in the house of my God, than to dwell in the tents of wickedness.” (Ps 84:2, 10)